NAMJ: Hey, B. This morning, listening to the radio about what’s going on in the world, and with the current president made me wonder something. Is all this chaos going to lead to something better?
B: Everything always leads to something better.
NAMJ: That’s a pretty bold statement.
B: Not really. You could also say that everything always leads to something worse, and that too would be true to some extent. Haven’t you learned yet that nothing is as it seems? It is all how you perceive it, and those perceptions are constantly changing, especially if you let yourself become attached to all that mumbo jumbo out there flying around. Everything is always changing. Everything. You can’t always see it, but everything is always in flux.
As for the state of things, the same is true. You have heard that things need to get worse before they get better. While we don’t like to focus on the worse part, this to an extent is true, too. What makes people change things? Worsening of circumstances.
NAMJ: I don’t like to think about that. I just want things to be better. I don’t want to have to go through trials, and I don’t want to think about others having to go through trials. It hurts.
B: Indeed. Trials, as you say, is the space in which change happens though. Where growth happens. The sooner you can embrace that, the sooner you will find more ease. And then, once the trial is over there is a period of comfort. Then guess what? More trials. And the cycle continues. As humans you try to run from trials. You do everything you can think of to avoid them, to feel better.
Have you ever noticed that when you can’t run anymore and are faced to confront your trial, or you make the choice to confront it, that once you’re done you feel like you’ve been given new life? You feel stronger, more empowered, relieved. When you look back you think, “Wow. That was hard, but I don’t have to do that again. I’m so glad I went through it?”
NAMJ: Yes, I suppose you’re right. But I hate the going through part. Actually, I hate the lead up to going through more.
B: Yes. Anticipation and rumination of what it could be, or how it will go down, is the worst. And that is what is going on right now. Anticipation and rumination. There is a lot that you feel is messed up. A lot thatÂ isÂ messed up, despite it being perfect as it is. For a long time people have been ruminating. Anticipating a change that doesn’t seem to come. There is also a big feeling of hopelessness and helplessness.
I would pose that maybe that guy in charge is bringing that to a head, which causes people to fight back against it which in turn actually helps to keep things at the status quo. But you have someone who doesn’t acknowledge the status quo and that’s scary for people.
NAMJ: So, do you think that things need to blow up before they get better?
B: Not necessarily. You could go on like this forever, chipping away a little bit here and there, maybe getting a teeny tiny reprieve. Then someone from the other side coming in and undoing, and then back to chipping away at something else. Isn’t that painful too?
NAMJ: It’s like a slow burn.
B: Yes. And you can’t rebuild while that is happening. Or, if you do, you can only do it around the edges of the fire.
NAMJ: Interesting. That gives me a lot to think about.